NLP Tips from Mom (with Love)


NLP+ for Families at the Taylored Life Company in Birmingham UK

I think my mother was the best NLPer ever without knowing it.  She said so many things that made so much sense yet until I took the NLP Practitioner course I didn’t fully understand what she meant. Now I know.

One of my mom’s favourite sayings was, “There’s no such word as can’t.”  I know she was looking to inspire me onto greater things … after all that’s a mom’s job, isn’t it?

In our NLP+ Practitioner course we explain that the word can’t is a very disempowering word because it takes away choice and is usually the sign of a limiting belief.  We go on to explain that the word ‘can’t’ means ‘I can do the process of not doing’ … so if you say that you can’t do something you actually must know what you need to do to achieve it, so that you can say that you can’t. Often what somebody really means is ‘I won’t’ rather than ‘I can’t’.

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When we explained this at one of our Taylored business trainings a few years ago, a delegate said, “I don’t think that’s right; I can’t jump out of an airplane”. We asked “What stops you”; he replied “I don’t see the point in it.” We said, “Well that’s ‘I won’t’ as there is nothing to stop you and it’s a choice rather than an ‘I can’t’.”

So the next time that you say, “I can’t” think about what my mom said and be empowered by changing it to “I won’t” and then examine the reasons why you won’t do it. If they are important to you, that’s great!

If it’s a limiting belief that you hold about yourself then we can show you how to let go of that with Time Line Therapy®.

Look out for more NLP tips from my mom … as we all know mom knows best!